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[Raising Godly Tomatoes is a site dedicated to a parental technique they lovingly call tomato staking, which involves keeping your kids isolated from the rest of the world and keeping them at arm's length and under absolute control from birth to at least the age of eighteen. Here, Elizabeth talks about socialization between children.]
"When they (the children) are small it's not much of a problem at all. Just don't put them in nurseries, or make play dates, or send them to pre-school, etc. In my opinion, this goes for most church activities too. We do not send our children to Sunday School, or Jr. Church, or Vacation Bible School, etc. We keep them in church with us when we go. (We are currently home churching with a number of other like-minded families so we don't regularly attend a traditional church.) We don't do this just to keep our kids separate, we really do believe that kids should be worshipping with their parents, not playing (or even worshipping) with their buddies only. Don't start encouraging them to play freely with the neighbor children. Keep them at home with you for the most part and when you feel the urge to socialize, do it as a family with other like minded families. Focus on relatives if possible regardless of whether or not they have children. Your children will benefit far more from a day spent with Grandma, than a day spent with the neighbor kids.
Once they've reached school age you still should not have problems if you homeschool and haven't encouraged friendships and free, unsupervised, socializing with neighbors, etc.. There won't be a problem with them longing for the company of their friends because their friends will be their parents and siblings. I think that is the way it should be.
About neighbors, if you start out letting your children play with the neighbor children it will be hard to break the habit later, especially without offending the neighborhood parents. Don't get started. If your neighbor sends their child over to play, try to be "unavailable" until they lose interest (and they will when they find other friends). I'd recommend being friendly to all neighbors, but don't become close friends unless they share your views on the matter of homeschooling and socializing.
Even if you find a group of people who all homeschool and all have no TV and all have similar beliefs, etc. it is still not wise to let your children socialize too much, even as teens, maybe I should say "especially as teens".
[I can only hope that this is a joke, elaborate for its own sake.]
Elizabeth,
Raising Godly Tomatoes 65 Comments [7/10/2007 9:45:44 PM]
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